Happy(?) Valentine’s Day

It is almost Valentine’s Day. To some of us it’s no big deal. We are secure in a wonderful relationship, and we just don’t go all out for it. Others make sure they have reservations for a candlelight dinner with all the trimmings. Chocolates, flowers, followed by a night of romance. (Yes I went there). The problem is that many of you are not in a relationship and it just seems to rub your nose in the fact that you are single. (And I do know there are many contented singles.) You are not part of a couple but are “just a single.” The loneliness you feel may be compounded by this one simple holiday. Maybe you can handle Christmas, Thanksgiving with no one to call your own, but this…this Valentine’s Day is painful for you.

Why do we make a big deal about Valentine’s Day? (And we do make a big deal of it. Go into any retail business almost and see the stuffed animals, the candy, cards, and so on.) I think part of it is our sexual culture, and how sex is overemphasized at this time of year. It actually puts pressure on us I think, especially as women, to have sex with someone whether we are married to that person or not. Don’t believe me? Look at the lingerie advertisements. Go into a certain well-known bargain store, and look! Skimpy nightgowns proudly displayed as you walk down the front aisle. I heard on LPB news that this same store is selling (ahem) “certain items” from a popular “romance” novel.

I read an article in which the author wondered why we can’t be more like kids in elementary school and just send all our friends a Valentine card. Everyone was our “Valentine” when we were in elementary school. Okay, some people might think that is silly but the idea has some merit. Seems we could at least include a single friend in the festivities by sending them a card or chocolates or something. How do you think your single friends would react? Would they be grateful? Embarrassed? I’m not sure, but I think most of them would appreciate the effort.

Here’s the good news: we always have a Valentine. A very special One. Christ is always with us as believers. His Holy Spirit resides in us. So this Valentine’s Day, whether single or in a relationship, take some time to love on God, let His healing hand touch your heart as you celebrate the tremendous love he has for you. No one knows true love better than the Heavenly Father.

“Love is not something God does, it is who He is.” ~Joyce Meyer

John 3:16
I John 4:8


Published by Eileen K. Copeland

Eileen is a Christ-follower who desires to help women discover the love God has for them as individuals. She has been married for over 40 years, has two grown children, and three grandchildren. While working as a medical technologist in a hospital setting, she also writes short stories, an occasional poem, and is currently working on a fantasy fiction novel. She is a member of American Christian Fiction Writers and her local ACFW chapter, ACFW-LA Eileen is an avid reader, a certified road tripper, and a lover of coffee and chocolate. The beach is her favorite place for relaxation and inspiration, but snow-covered mountains are not far behind. One of her favorite quotes is by Joyce Meyer: "Love is not something God does, it is Who He is."

10 thoughts on “Happy(?) Valentine’s Day

  1. Eileen..yes you did …thank you….It has been 5 years since an early Valentine. I was reminded that I had the greatest love of my life with me already and I grow more and more in love every day with the One who loved me first!

  2. AMEN!!! It’s heart wrenching for me seeing so many that don’t know the love of Christ. That love fills an emptiness that nothing else can. We are all born with a God-shaped hole within us that nothing else can fill. We spend our lives trying to fill it with earthly “things” and come up empty every time. It’s only when we find Him that we are complete. We love because He loved us first. (1 John 4:19)
    Great post! 🙂

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